Is your upline "stealing" your dream?

Say your sponsor has heard somewhere that the way someone made it really big in the business was to stand on street corners collaring people, and telling each one about the business. Some people start with 10 pennies in one pocket, and transfer one for each such contact they make.

The upline tells the new recruit this, and tells them to go do it.

However, the new recruit doesn't want to do that.

Doesn't like the idea, doesn't want to approach people that way.

That is a "weak" area for them. Or just a dislike.

Do you know what Donald Trump told Larry King Live on his show in May, 2004? Mr. King asked Mr. Trump, "What's the most important requirement for success?" And Mr. Trump replied, "First, you must be doing something you LOVE."

The upline, who obviously doesn't know this, insists, and nags the new recruit about it each time she calls, even though the upline herself may not even be doing that activity. Our new recruit has a strength, though, which no one asked about, and it happens to be calling people on the phone. She and her son know, for example, that MCI telemarketers can do 400-600 calls in a 6 hour shift (all called by computer) and that they are expected to get 2-3 sales. ! They know because they've done it.

But massive phone calling is not encouraged by the upline and the "leaders" doing the conference calls. Just talk to people you know, and in person, they say. Calling friends and friends of friends and professional contacts can be quite massive, actually. To say nothing of professional leads.

So calling on the phone, the recruit's strength, is not only DIScouraged, it is belittled and frowned upon.

Mark Victor Hansen writes that to succeed, "Differentiate between your strengths and weaknesses. Then forget about your weaknesses and concentrate on your strengths."

But the poor upline is oblivious to this.

The upline insists instead that our new recruit should do something she dislikes - stand on a street corner collaring people But she won't do it, bless her heart. And doesn't want to learn how, either. Therefore, because of the nagging and belittling, she's thinking about quitting and getting a regular job again. At least she gets paid to be bossed.

And this from an industry whose leaders recruit members with the slogan "fire your boss". What, so someone can subject themselves to a new "boss" who is just as clueless as the previous boss of how to use the person's best qualities?

Is that ridiculous or is that ridiculous?

Since when is there one best way of finding people who would be customers, or who would do the business? Just because one person had a success doing street corner recruiting, does that mean it's for everyone? Just because someone had success talking to someone they know, can we predict that will happen for everyone? Just because someone had success going door to door, is that for everyone? Just because someone ran a successful ad, are ads for everyone? Just because someone gave a successful talk at the school, is that for everyone? Just because someone has success calling lists, is that for everyone?

No one is actually "duplicatable", are they? If they were, why, wouldn't everyone in the business be a millionaire?

Here's how to make sure your own upline doesn't "steal" your dream.

Make a list of your strengths and weaknesses. If you don't like approaching people (I call it "going first"), then do things that make people come to you. There are plenty of options that are legal, and appropriate for hundreds of companies. (See the Truth book for 12 reaching out methods)

Based on your strengths, your likes, and what you know is "you", select the methods of reaching out that you want to do. Then and not your weakness; something you love not something you hate.

Of course HONE that skill you already have, and practice, practice practice.

#2. "Customers are a waste of time"

Although recruiting business builders continues to be bandied about as the way to "get rich fast" it has not proven to be that so for the 95% who drop out. Has it been for you? Yet the upline and those in front of the room continue to scream at their new recruits to go after business builders. But if you don't feel strongly about doing that, if you don't love it madly, what should you do when you're nagged about that each time you have a conversation with an upline?